How do I get this client to regularly engage? 
                                 
While we may feel a client  like this is being  difficult, in fact he or she is probably behaving quite rationally.  When they perceive you to be useful or valuable, they want to spend time  with you; and when they do not see your value, they don’t want to waste  their time!
This client  doesn’t want to meet because he  doesn’t perceive that meeting as helping him achieve one of his high  priority goals. He doesn’t see how it relates to his agenda of critical  priorities and goals. When clients don’t want to spend time with us, we  should blame ourselves, not them. 
Our job is to help our clients achieve their goals, period. We need  to demonstrate, in all our interactions, that we are doing that.  Whatever project or transaction you may be working on, you have to show  clearly how it supports your client ‘s agenda.
Sometimes, clients need to be educated about the importance of face  time and regular updates. So it may make sense to sit down and say,  "With my best clients, I have a regular, quarterly meeting to discuss  progress, assess new information, and ensure I am aligned with their  most important priorities…" But then you have to deliver–you have to  make these sessions relevant and add "value for time."
 
             
            
			
			    
                
			
			
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